Discover your man's secret desires

Sex swats have discovered your man's secret desires and they're sharing......Some guys aren't forthcoming about what they want in the sack, but luckily many spill the beans in a survey.  The results are in from one of the biggest sex surveys, so pen and paper at the ready ladies, as these tricks will drive them wild!

MEN WANT....TO KEEP SEX IN THE BEDROOM

Forget alfresco sex - 74 percent of blokes prefer a romp in the bedroom. "They're programmed to defend their space and are less focused in places where they could be discovered or overlooked", explains leading psychologist |Susan Quilliam. The bedroom's more likely to be somewhere they can releax, concentrating on the job at hand.

DO IT!  Keep bedroom sex exciting by trying amazing new positions like the following one. "With your man lying lengthwyts on his back on the bed and his head dangling over the side, straddle and ride him. Dangle his head over the bed makes bllod rush to his brain, creating the same sensations he'd experience in erotic strangulation without the risks"

MEN WANT.....TO USE CONDOMS, ACTUALLY

So you think all men are dirty condom didgers? Think again. Over two thirds of men find a woman who carries a condom more attractive because it shows she's confident and in control. Time to accessorise the rubber ladies!

DO IT!  Play rubber roulette. Keep a bowl of mixed condoms by your bedside, including flavoured, textured, super-thin, delaying, ane heated varieties.  Close your eyes a pick one before each session for a kinky surprise.

MEN WANT....62 STROKES OF THE HAND

In masturbtion trials, it took men an average of 62 stokes to climax, which shows the power of a firm hand in the bedroom! Your hand has a firmer grip than, let's say your mouth and as it's how men masturbate, using the same technique as he does means the road to his climax is fast and well executed!

DO IT! First rule, always use a lube to ensure your firm grip isn't chaffing. And second rule, focus on the head and the corona (the ridge around the underside of the head), and employ a twist.  When you reach the part where the shaft meets the head, slightly twist your hand.  Keeping the palm as close to the head as possible, twist your wrist to pass your palm over his penis and down the other side. Recommended by Tracey Cox, author of Pocket Karma Sutra (DK Books)

MEN WANT....STRAIGHT SEX, RATHER THAN B-JS

Prepare to be blown away , a massive 85 percent of men would opt for penetrative sex if forced to choose between that and oral for the rest of their lives.  Guys get fuller stimulation through vaginal sex, as there are gaps here or there with oral sex.

DO IT! Give him the best of both worlds, but defy convention be starting with penetrative sex and finishing with a blowie!

MEN WANT...RUMPYPUMPY TO R'N'B

A poll shows men rate R'n'B the best music to have sex to and Marvin Gaye's Sexual Healing is their ultimate bump n'grind tune.

DO IT! Play musical bonks.  Dim the lights, play a R'n'B CD and assume a new sex position every time a track changes.  Extra points is you can climax to the end of a song.

MEN WANT...SEX TOYS OF THEIR OWN

Forty-six percent of men have bought a sex toy, like the Tenga masturbator- rubber masturbation sleeves with textured interiors.

DO IT! Stock up on 'novelty' aids now. Novelty keeps your relationship fresh and research suggests this factor kick-starts our hormones, boosting arousal.  Gift wrap a toy and present it to him over a romantic meal so he sees the gadget as classy rather than sleazy, and then offer to operate the device later for him.

MEN WANT...YOU TO LOSE THE LINGERIE

Give expensive lingerie a miss- 34 percent of men rate their footy or rugby shirt as the hottest thing a woman can wear to bed.  It combines all their favourite things- women, sport and sex- in one package.

DO IT! Play ball by pandering to this whim - even going so far as to add sexy, white, knee-high socks, but make sure you let him know you're not wearing any knickers underneath that big shirt of his!

OTHER STATS:

23% have faked an orgasm during sex - more than once!

20% have lied about loving a woman, just to get laid

19% of men have paid for sex at least once

50% share all their fantasies with their lover

11% of men don't masturbate